Boundaries are an activation to your purpose, love, happiness and freedom.
I want to share with you a process inspired by the Divine Feminine to establish and hold powerful boundaries with…
Employees
Spouse
Family members
Yourself
Let’s begin with the most important question…
Why do we have a hard time establishing boundaries?
For most people it’s one or all of these reasons:
- Boundaries were never modeled to you as a child, so you simply don’t have an experience of strong healthy boundaries.
- It feels confronting, so you avoid it.
- You are afraid you won’t be liked or will disappoint if you set a boundary.
Following are some common examples of poor boundaries that I often see with clients that you can relate to.
Scenario A: An employee is underperforming and you end up picking up the slack.
You just get it done because you don’t want confrontation or simply don’t have time to have a conversation with the employee. You end up resentful, feel overloaded at work and nothing changes.
Scenario B: Your spouse or partner isn’t “doing enough” and you feel overwhelmed.
You also don’t want to have a confrontation or lash out because you are again resentful and overwhelmed.
Scenario C: You are dealing with a serious challenge and your family doesn’t support your choices.
Let’s use the example of receiving a serious health diagnosis. You choose to not follow the main stream. Your family guilts you with worry and manipulation and you end up exhausted giving away precious energy your body needs for healing.
Now let’s take a look at the real cost of lacking boundaries:
- You are unhappy or resentful.
- You feel exhausted because your energy is being drained.
- You have invisible roadblocks to your vision and dreams.
- You don’t feel supported.
- You fall into victim consciousness because you feel all of this is “happening to you.”
From Victim to Creatress:
The consciousness shift to powerful – establish and hold your boundaries.
I’ll be going through each scenario to give you a jump start on setting boundaries. Each of these conversations requires a certain skill set that would be too lengthy for this email.
Nonetheless, this will give you great insight and the energetic intention to set you up for Divine greatness.
Scenario A with the employee
You take the time to talk to the employee about expectations. The key to success here is having a conversation that empowers the employee, shifting from mediocre to great performance and ultimately leadership. This of course will make your company more valuable if you decide to sell it.
Scenario B with your spouse
In this case it’s about setting up the conversation from a place of compassion, shared responsibilities and creating space for deep intimacy, love and connection (instead of blame, shame and defense.)
Scenario C with family members
A life threatening disease is the perfect school for strong boundaries. However, this can be applied to any situation.
In my case I have one objective: heal my body completely. Anyone who doesn’t support my path 100% doesn’t get to be part of the conversation. I choose to stay fully focused on my outcome without distractions.
As you can see, the result of implementing boundaries is of great significance:
STOP ENERGY LEAKS
Poor boundaries are a huge energy drain. Precious energy you need to fulfill your purpose, heal your body or create more love.
KEEP YOUR VIBRATION HIGH
Instead of allowing it to come down to the lowest vibrations of shame and guilt.
BUILD YOUR MAGNETISM
When you are confident in how you lead your business, how you take care of your body and in knowing who you are and what you stand for, you radiate a very attractive energy.
MAKE YOUR VISION AND DREAMS A REALITY
You can’t accomplish big things with nay-sayers, energy leaks or the lack of a highly supportive environment and team. It’s just not possible.
SHIFT FROM MEDIOCRITY TO GREATNESS
Establishing boundaries is the path of the evolved soul. It’s about honoring your needs, and desires, and at the same time bringing out the best in others.
I did an Instagram Live where I go into detail about each one of these scenarios.
In the video you’ll get a sense of not just the words, but the energy that makes this all possible.
Remember, it’s all about holding the feminine energies of love, compassion and empowerment.
As you can see, the result of implementing boundaries is of great significance.
I’ll leave you with some inspiring outcomes of clients who implement sacred boundaries with these quantum results…
♥️ From 5 days of vacation a year to 6 weeks: (boundaries around time and employee expectations)
♥️ Tripling her income (boundaries around the type of clients she takes on and her price point)
♥️ Calling in her soul mate after a history of abusive relationships (boundaries in all her relationships)
Boundaries make your vision and dreams a reality.
Boundaries = Dancing with Life in Freedom ♥️🔥♥️
xo,
Solara
